'Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills' Star Garcelle Beauvais Shares Her Self-Love Lessons In New Memoir

"I’m just now realizing—in my 50s—that I’ve done enough and I am enough."

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Kimber Capriotti

When it came to writing her new memoir, Love Me As I Am (out now), the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star admits she held little back. “I really went there,” she says of the revealing look at her life, which chronicles her upbringing in Haiti and her career in Hollywood, where she starred in such TV series as Models Inc., The Jamie Foxx Show, and NYPD Blue. Of all the lessons the 55-year-old has learned along the way—and revisited while writing her book—the biggest was realizing that she is, indeed, enough.

“People can tell you over and over and over again, but until you feel it— until you know it—you’re still striving [to prove yourself],” she says. Of course, working under the unforgiving spotlight hasn’t always helped matters. “You get a lot of rejections; you get a lot of nos,” Garcelle says. “You’re only as good as your last job.”

She credits “a lot” of self-help books, close friends, and a good therapist with helping her to finally realize her worth and power. “I’m just now realizing—in my 50s—that I’ve done enough and I am enough.” However, she’s quick to add: “I still want to do more, because that’s just who I am.” You know what they say: It’s all about finding that elusive balance.


11:11

Garcelle says that when she sees this time, she knows she’s on the right path and her guides are with her. She even has an “11:11” necklace.


“I’ve had a big life—with many ups and many downs. I think that’s the beauty of it all: It’s ever-changing. Nothing great lasts forever; nothing bad lasts forever. That’s how I approach everything now.”


Think small about self-care.

“It’s not big things—it’s tiny things, every now and then, that make the difference. For instance, I like to put a few drops of lavender in my face mask and take a moment to breathe.”


Talk it out with a pro.

“Therapy really helped me when I was going through my divorce and trying to figure out how to coparent my kids and get back to myself. I had to think about, ‘What do I like to do?’”


Keep your love tank filled.

“The best piece of advice I’ve ever received was from my friend Jamie Foxx. He said, ‘Always leave a little love for yourself—don’t give it all away.’”

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